I’m black. I’m proud. I’m comfortable…… In my
skin.
I like Mrs. Da-Silva. She’s a very dutiful colleague.
Beautiful, attractive, always in smiles, has a solution to every administrative
problem at work, God-fearing, respects humanity, generous…… Plus, she has this
exquisite collection of shoes and bags that I’m sure every young fashion-loving
girl, like me, would kill for.
So, Mrs. Da-Silva invited me over to lunch at her
place one day. I felt honored. Apparently, she wanted to hook me up with this
‘eligible’ bachelor, whom she felt would help me in accomplishing my dreams,
someday. (I wonder what she was thinking. ‘Cos, at the time, I didn’t even know
what my dreams were).
I wore my pretty Sunday dress and didn’t forget to
buy a bottle of Rose wine, which I had discovered was her favorite. And you can
trust me when I say: Lunch was good…… Soooo gooood! She’s a really good cook. Little
or no wonder why her husband was so chubby. I mean, with a wife who cooks that
well, one would need strict discipline on appetite control. I was munching my
way down from appetizer to desert, that I barely had time to assess my ‘potential’
suitor. Afterwards, we all sat down to drink our Rose wine and we started
having a non-gossip chit-chat. That was when she started telling us about her
younger days and thought it would be nice to share some pictures with us, just
so that we would come to terms with most of the things she had been trying so
hard to explain. Then the questions started pouring in……
You see, Mrs. Da-Silva is a light-skinned lady.
So light, that I would sometimes wonder if she had white blood, in her. And whenever
I asked, she’ll chuckle and answer: “No, dear. Just the way God made me”. This,
I got to discover that day, was a blatant lie! Mrs. Da-Silva was born: BLACK.
So black, that when she took pictures at night, you could only see her eyeballs
and her teeth (i.e. when she was smiling).
I was so shocked
that I had to ask: “Sorry ma, but did you say these were your pictures?”
And she happily
replied: “Yes dear. I’m sure you are surprised to find out I had such an
exciting childhood. I travelled all around the world, I wore the best clothes, and
I went to the best schools…… My parents were quite sophisticated, you know……”
And my ‘suitor’ interrupted,
blurting the words out: “Madam, why were you so dark and how did you become so
light-skinned? Don’t tell me you are one of those people who bleached their
skin tone? Because I think bleaching is not only irritating but also un-called
for.”
And there was dead
silence in the room.
I usually have myself a good laugh, whenever I
come across some of my fellow colored people doing their thing. If you ask me,
I’d say it’s just unexplainable. Yes! UNEXPLAINABLE.
When I see fellow blacks who’ve got veins popping
out their dermis, as if shouting “MARY! MARY!!” ……When I see red and black
patches developing on a mid-tone negro……When I see an ebony friend suddenly
turned into a funny shade of ivory…… I wonder what they are thinking!! I mean, you have this legendary tone and you just
wish u could do away with it??!! C’mon guys…… When are we going to get a grip
on ourselves? What’s with all the craze and hype for a lighter skin colour?? The
craze popularly called ‘Bleaching’, in this part of the world. In my opinion,
it’s all crap!!
Ok. On a regular day, why not take a look at a
black lady’s (men aren’t completely ruled out) cosmetic products. I can bet
you’ll see descriptive captions like: Brightening, Whitening, Lightening, Complexion
Toning, Maxi-Tone, Quick action, Fast action…… It goes on and on. The
interesting part is that most of these cosmetics are gotten at very cheap
prices and eventually do more harm (than good) to the skin. Most of the
attractive claims that make some of us want to fill our bath-tub with these
cosmetics and swim in them all day long, don’t even turn out so ‘FANTASTIC!!’.
We see light-skinned folks burning themselves up
in the sun at every opportunity they get to sunlight. We sometimes watch them go
through the stress of using tanning lotions and sprays. Oh yes! I haven’t
forgotten the Spray tanning machine which is designed solely for browning the skin.
Some even come out looking so orange, like blotchy leather, after they’ve over
done the tan. And they are stuck with the look for a couple of days. *smh. And
their daily cosmetic products include darkening agents, such as: Cocoa butter,
Shea butter, Aloe Vera and even Vitamin E!! (#Yea, vitamin E darkens) All in
the bid to tone down the whitish pigment they have. And someone tells me not to
love my brown skin? In whatever shade it comes? NEVER!!
Let’s
trash this issue from the root. Time, history and biological selection has made
it in such a way that we are naturally found in the tropics. Although, in some
parts of the world, previous ancient activities transferred a good number of us
to places that our ancestors had no name, heritage or origin. Temperate
regions, to be precise. And that’s that. Nevertheless, what makes us ‘colored’
is the fact that we have pigment-producing cells called melanin in our skin
that produces more of eumelanin than phaeomelanin. Darker skin types produce
more eumelanin and whiter skin types contain more phaeomelanin. (Enough biology for
one day, eh?)
Apart from the fact that eumelanin gives us a
peculiar and particularly browner skin tone, it has numerous advantages. In hot
times, darker skinned people lose more water through the skin. This may be an
evolutionary change where darker-skinned individuals tended to live in hotter
areas of the world and lighter skinned people lived in colder countries.
Therefore, as more water leaves the skin it has a better cooling effect. Darker skin has more layers of the epidermis than
whiter skin. People of colour also have higher protection to the sun, than
whites. Yea. We ‘coloureds’ are walking SPF 13.4 s, compared to whites, whose
natural SPF is 3.3. Meaning, for every sunscreen we use, we have an additional
SPF of 10.1 than any Caucasian using that same sunscreen. It gives us higher
resistance to skin diseases, thereby making us less susceptible to some terrible
skin diseases. This gives our epidermis more protection to harsh weather conditions.
Eumelanin helps the skin retain its brownish tone. So we don’t blush at every
embarrassing statement or turn white when we are cold (no offence guys). Eumelanin
gives our skin more elasticity and firmness. Yea, people of colour do not
wrinkle that quickly and we age less. It also makes colored skin less
susceptible to cold damage than whites. Unfortunately, most of us don’t
appreciate these benefits we derive from eumelanin. And I wonder why.
I know most of us blacks like to repair the
damages that our harsh weather wreaks on our natural skin tone, but we can at
least do it in moderation. I know that
the harsh sun rays sometimes burn so hard on our skin that we might get darker
than we naturally are. I also know that the harmattan gets so dry sometimes,
that we lose our healthy glow. But there are always ways around it.
You must learn to use a sunscreen every time you
have to get in the sun. I know it’s a difficult habit to adopt, so if you can
stay out of the sun, then that would work even better. Any sun exposure between
11.00a.m - 4p.m/4.30p.m can get you a fair share of daily sun burn. When
getting a sunscreen, get one that protects the skin from both UVA and UVB rays.
The potency of the sunscreen is measured based on its SPF (Sun Protection
Factor). A higher SPF ensures higher protection. But anything between SPF
15-SPF 50 is suitable for a black skin. Like I mentioned earlier, Negros have a
natural SPF 10.1 embedded in their skin. This is our natural protection from
the harmful rays of the sun, in the tropics, but more protection definitely
works the difference.
Exfoliate.
Exfoliation works wonders. Most of the dullness and unnecessary ‘brownness’ of
a black skin can come from the large amount of dead cells on the epidermis. Get
an exfoliating salt (sea salt), which can be used once a week. You can also get
an exfoliating soap or body scrub and use 3-4 times a week. There are exfoliating
bath gloves, too. These are easy to use while in the bath or shower and can be
used daily, because they exfoliate the skin more evenly.
Use natural complexion clarifiers, if you have to.
There is a wide range, from Oatmeal to Licorice extract to Burberry extract to Milk
(Goat or Cow) to Papaya to Vitamin C…… Name them. Cucumber works well for the
eye area. The advantages of using these natural skin lighteners is that they do
not ‘bleach’ the skin and take off its natural colour, they restore the skins
original pigment and help it to bounce back after the natural colour has been
threatened by harsh weather conditions. They also help to blend the skin tone
and make it even. This is important in cases where there is a noticeable
imbalance in a person’s skin tone, due to natural or artificial causes. Now,
most of these natural skin lighteners may be difficult to find in their natural
state (Goat milk, for example). What I suggest is that you opt for cosmetic
products that have these natural skin clarifiers as their primary active
ingredient or component.
Eat well. A balanced diet works for the skin. It
gives the skin all its natural vitamins and ingredients it needs to have that
glow. Fruits and veggies (especially when eaten without being cooked) work
wonders on the skin. Drinking lots of water also helps to hydrate and
moisturize the skin. Green tea is a natural detoxicant. It detoxifies the skin
off impurities and keeps it looking clean and fresh. Food supplements also help
to make up for nutrients that may have been omitted in our diet. Why not take
these nutrients in and have them work from the inside out? So you can acquire
this ‘glow’ you really crave for. What goes in, definitely shows on the outside,
you know.
If your skin has already been damaged by skin
bleaching agents, there is very little you can do to correct the damages. I
will suggest you get to a dermatologist have some proper tests run, on your
skin. The results of the test will determine what type of treatment you will
receive. Nevertheless, you must stop using any of these products, immediately.
Do not believe that one lightening product will help to repair the damages
caused by another. Do not listen to recommendations from people about what
worked for their damaged skin and what didn’t. This is because your skin type,
tone and requirements may be completely different from theirs. JUST GET TO A DERMATOLOGIST.
One of the first signs of noticing that your skin
is being damaged by harsh chemical products is getting easily bruised at a
slight cut or grazing of the skin. And when some of these sores or injuries
take a longer period to heal than they normally would, that (my friends) is a “STOP!!” sign.
Or when you start having sunburn on your face, otherwise
known as black under-eye patches, then that is also a "STOP!!" sign.
By the way, I need not mention that after my
‘suitor’ bluntly embarrassed my darling Mrs. Da-Silva, I didn’t need a
soothsayer to tell me: RUN FOR YOUR FACE!! Because her frown not only spelt out
how upset she was, but also, how upset that I may be getting quite often (if I
decide to take the young man a bit more seriously). All said, I believe there
are many Mrs. Da-Silva(s) who had their natural skin colour changed and got
away with it. These cases are really rare and I must commend you guys for your
boldness. Remember that cases of skin cancer abound these days and I really do
hope you have an explanation for your grand kids when you show them your
childhood pictures. *winks*
Me, I’m happy. I’m black. I’m proud. I’m
comfortable…… In my skin
Wow! Really long read but enligghtening too I didn't know black skin has that much spf than white skin.
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Ravishing, exhilarating a must read
ReplyDeleteSurprised I'm just coming across this article. This is really a good read. Thumbs up!
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